A popular saying goes something like, "The more people know, the more I love my dog." A sad but very popular phrase, both in theory and in practice.
The truth is that hardly anyone really knows someone, instead, it has achieved compliance with do a biased and thorough psychological analysis of who is "meant" to know.
Automatic psychology of recognition is one of the most flawed methods born of the mind as a tool for knowledge, for simple reasons, it hasn't accurate basis or causes certainty thus ensures live in constant fear.
The best way of to choose not to be at peace and being loved, is psychoanalyze everything and everyone, including one's personality.
This mechanism of psychology is not even voluntary, and of course, anyone who discovered the disastrous results it causes, would never choose to practice voluntarily.